Category: Teen Topics
I have A friend, whos name shal remaine Anonimess, and she is dating my X, how do I go about this, whith out geting mad, when the only thoght on my mind is kill them both?
This is going to sound snarky, insensitive, cold, and as if I'm being a bitch, but really, suck it up and deal with it.
Why 'kill,' why not be happy for your friend? After all, isn't a 'friend' supposed to support?
You're ex obviously moved on. You should, too.
It'll take time—time that you'll probably think is heart-breaking but in the long run, it'll heel you, hopefully.
I'm sorry because it this won't feel all that useful, but it'll probably just take time. Also, you have to decide how much your friend and your friends friendship means to you. You may have to step away for a while, so as not to torcher yourself as well.
I know how hurtful that is, but in time you will get over it.
I'm in a situation at the moment where I've just started seeing a guy who use to date my friend (she wasn't a close friend mind you, but she use to be years ago; she stopped hanging out with me long before him, so it's not why we're not close now) but it still hurt her to find out just last saturday that I was seeing her ex. And they broke up nearly two years ago. She said some horrible things which made me feel very insulted, but I know she's just hurt so all I can do is give her time.
I have to agree with post 2
you should move on. I mean, yes it does hurt, but you have to stop and think about this. Shouldn't you be "happy for your friend?"
In time, you should be ok. just try to not think about them for a while. try not to do anything that might remind you of them.
I thank everyone who posted,, all your sigestins are good and all of them I'm trying to do.. I have them both on ignore hear on the ZONE.,. I didi something stupid, I whent On my X's LJ yesterday.. and he sed some pritty ehrtfull things about me. he sed that he doesnt cair abiout what happends to me, but its ok becuase the feeling is muteral, I hope he dies. lOLOLOL IOk mabie not that far, but I do hope that he gets his hart broken.. for once, he will know how it feels. *evil grin*
From the sound of that, it was him that broke up with you. If that's the case, are you mad that he likes somebody else instead of you? What would be the arrangement that would be ideal? To that, I'd say go find someone that is better than him, that will love you more than he apparently loved you.
If you broke up with him, then what's the problem? her getting your hand me downs. There was a reason that you dumpped him, now it's her turn to be as miserable as you apparently were.
Morgan, honey, move on. He's happy, she's presumably happy, so be happy for her if not for him. You have a new guy now, so why shouldn't he have a new girl? I know it's a difficult situation, especially when you're not the one who decided to end things, but ... there's nothing more to be done about it. Getting pissed about it isn't going to make things any easier for anyone.
were all saying move on. that's easier said than done. If this person was a real friend she would have thaught about Morgan's feelings! Morgan I do think you need to move on. that will take time. I also think you need to reevaluate your friendship with this girl. you all say Morgan should be happy for her friend. Again, I say what about Morgan's feelings? Is this any kind of friend that would do this to her? Morgan knowing who your ex is, and having herd many different girls on here going on and on about him. he seems to be a creap, and your friend will soon find out how he really is! Sad that she had to learn the hard way, yes, but maybe she will learn to take her friends feelings in account before jumping on there ex's! All's I can tell you, is don't cause any more drama for yourself. Let them do there thing. There are plenty of guys out there, that will treat you much better. Your still young, have fun and don't worry about finding someone. It will happen in time. As I said your young get out there and enjoy it!
Shea
yeah but what if morgan's friend wasn't really a friend? just a thought
Ooo, you all are mean!
BLND_girl, have counseling? Talk to an adult you know will not tell you to move on or make fun of you. If you want p.m. me, and I'd love and will be glad to talk it out! Well, I promise I'll not hurt you.